Sunday, February 26, 2012

What is wrong with me?!?

I have two issues that intertwine. First is I get nervous very easily. I meet an attractive girl or even think about approaching one to talk or even get her number and my heart races and my body warms. It's adrenaline. I produce so much adrenaline too often that in the end, I have adrenal burnout. I can't control it, even through deep breathing relaxation techniques.



A few hours ago I was at The Old Country Buffet. I was meeting my friend there. I went up to receptionist and she was incredibly cute. Great face and great body.. Seemed pretty nice as well. Chatted a little bit about how busy it was and huge big the place was and that was that. When I sat down and waited for my friend, I began thinking about whether or not I should go up and ask her if she wanted to go out sometime or grab a bite to eat (no movie). I thought about it and the moment I attempted to stand up my heart went into over-drive. I immediately sat back down. I said 'screw it', tried to get up again and sat right back down. The whole rest of the time I was there with my friend, I was very edgy. I simply couldn't make myself walk up to her.



I have a hard time smiling at attractive women. My eyes can barely look into hers. However, when I smile naturally at something funny and happen to look toward a cute girl while smiling, she almost always blushes a little and smiles back. It is when it's naturally, most of the time I have to pretend to smile because I'm depressed or want to appear happy.



I've always been told I'm attractive and have a great smile. I'm 21, 5'8", 149 lbs. toned, going into the Army, college graduate and I'd say I'm fairly intelligent. However, I'm not a people at all; I don't like many people because I always think people have negative motivations behind their actions. I'm negative, defeatist and pessimistic and it's so hard to change. I'm trying but to no avail...



What do I do?! How I control my racing heart and nerves? How can I overcome my anxiety and pessimism?What is wrong with me?!?
I think you just need to be a little more confident and learn to relax. Just act natural around women. You are very handsome, all you need to do is to be more confident like I said.What is wrong with me?!?
Just be yourself. It doesn't matter if it's good enough for someone else.What is wrong with me?!?
nothings wrong with you, your just naturally nervous. im guessin even when u were in middle or highschool you never had much interaction with women. PRACTICE MAKES PERFECt. legit. the more you practice with 'semi goodlookin' girls, the easier it will get with really good lookin girls.

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